While evolutionary psychology suggests that women pass on casual sex due to an inherent lack of sexual desire, Conley says there’s an entirely different reason. She posits that women say “thanks, but no thanks” for fear of being judged. She also says that women have serious reservations about whether a one-night stand would be enjoyable with a new partner. She tries to explain to men, “The reason women are turning you down for casual sex seems to be that, for one thing, a lot of you are calling them sluts afterward.” Also, “A lot of you aren’t bothering to try to be good in bed.” Preach.
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Link: “Carceral feminism and coercive control: when Indigenous women aren't seen as ideal victims, witnesses or women”
An important contribution, in my opinion. It’s a knee-jerk reaction of many feminists – “bad people, lock ‘em up!” and it’s definitely even an instinctive reaction of mine – it’s so deeply ingrained in us from when we’re little that jail is how we punish people who do harm to others. But considering how much harm we know the criminal justice system does to Black and Indigenous people, and how horrible the police are at responding to even the most clear-cut situations (and deliberately so), we need to move beyond that instinctive reaction and realise that strengthening this oppressive system cannot be the answer.
The thing that’s prompted me to write this post is the interesting Jacobin article, Second-Wave Feminism’s Unfinished Business , which has a summary as follows:
Women are forced to take on both wage and social reproductive labor, then made to negotiate this contradiction individually. Second-wave feminism tried to change that.
I was going to add it as a …
Caregiving is indispensable to society. Without it, “the economy” as it is typically conceived, would cease to exist. The labor of health care workers, hospice aids, and day care and childcare workers, has allowed more of us to stay alive this past year and go to work.
Fraser isn’t the first to recognize this tendency. By demanding “wages for housework,” socialist feminists in the 1970s sought not only pay for their labor in the home, but to call attention to the fact that the entire capitalist economy was free-riding on the backs of homemakers, the vast majority of whom were women. If, as was often suggested, the economy could not afford to pay for housework, the demand for wages doubled as a demand for a new kind of economy that either valued care work or abolished its necessity. As Kathi Weeks argued, “it was a reformist project with revolutionary aspirations.”
Good, if introductory, piece tying together a couple of different ways that care work is dismissed and undervalued.